REVIEW ON WHY MEN MARRY BITCHES BY SHERRY ARGOV

I came across the book on a friend’s book shelf and on reading the title “why men marry bitches” I laughed a little wondering to myself, which man wants to be with a bitch?

Upon reading it, I discovered that the word “bitch” has an entirely different meaning in the book than what we know in reality. Sherry Argov associated the word bitch with a negative connotation. A bitch in this book is an “endearing word for a woman who is a typical “nice girl” and redefines the word “bitch”.

In this self-improved book, women are given the opportunity to figure out all of the mistakes they have been making with men. Sherry presents a woman’s guide to winning her man’s heart. A strategic way of approaching situations in your love life. A bitch in sherry’s term is a woman who knows who she is and what she wants. She’s not afraid to have standards for the way men treats her. She’s no push over to any man. When you think of any rap video you have seen isn’t this choice of word ironic?

In the book why men marry bitches one of the principles introduced is that you should be honest in answering questions men ask you.

The example Sherry gave is that when a woman says “I like whatever you like. I’m that easy” she becomes lame. It’s like he asked you what you like and you say whatever you like. Any woman who is easy is not interesting for a man to pursue.

What I understand in this scenario is that, we should not try to be someone who is easy to date and easy to get along with and easy going just for the sake of a guy liking you. Be yourself. “I could totally go for a pizza right now. Thank you for asking. What a nice gesture.”

As I continue to read the book, it dawn on me why so many “nice girls” are single. A good example of us college females is the scenario when a guy flakes on you, and how do you react? One time mistake can occur but patterns are a problem. In my life, I began to think I attract flakey guys. I saw the pattern with multiple guys as they came and went, as I continued to hope for someone responsible. Sherry presented a solution which is simple and straight forward. What do you do? You make other plans as if you are not at his beck and call (because of course you’re not) you say, my time is valuable. It would be nice if you gave me advance notice of a change. I’m going out with the girls tonight.”

The main theme in the book is how you handle situations, it says a lot about you. The ultimate goal is to project your standards to the guys you date. Chances are, if you’re awesome, classy and show you have self-respect, he will stick around a whole lot longer. What you can see in college is that a lot of girls give up their bodies to guys as if it’s no big deal. The guy may oblige, but remember how seriously he is taking the “easy” girl. Wouldn’t you rather be his goddess than his momentary play thing? The eye-opener is that perfect does not exist. Men don’t want perfect.  Men want interesting and the more you try to be perfect, the more eager you are to please. The more independent you are, the hotter you become by the second. This balls down to one of my life mantras, which is always love yourself. I say this in a playful manner but I really mean it. A healthy mind promotes success in life.

If you are a good girl who is sweet as honey and still single, may I introduce you to a whole new approach, through this book. You may see why you’re still single.

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