WHY DO PEOPLE LIE?

What does it mean to tell a lie?

When a person tells a lie, they speak falsely or utter untruth knowingly, with intent to deceive.

Everyone at a point in their lives have lied. Sadly few number of people lie almost all the time. Psychologists describes them as compulsive or psychopathic liars. A psychopath is not necessary someone who is violent. A psychopathic person can be someone who is charming and live a seemingly normal life. You will never suspect that something is wrong unless you are close to them.  They lie even when it is not necessary. Everything they do is built upon deception.

Sometimes when people lie, they are doing so because of something about them. Other times, there’s something about you that tempts people to lie to you. Everyone lies at some point, only a few know how destructive it can be. You get questions running through your mind like, why did I just lie? Does he/she knows I’m lying? How do I keep up this story?

People lie for different reasons, one of which is fear. Fear has the power to manipulate minds causing people to lie because of what might happen if they told the truth. They could be consequences of their actions therefore, lying was the only option left.

Tad Williams said, “we tell lies when we are afraid…fear of what we don’t know, fear of what other will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. Each time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger”

Manipulation is another reason why people lie. Someone might decide to lie in other to have something they desire like, money, status, sex, power, love etc. to me, the word love is mostly used in a lie more than any other word. Reading from an article, Lori said, “I’m young, but I realize quickly lustful people know how to get what they want, even if it means lying to you about how they feel”. The times a boy/girl will say “I love you” just to get the other person emotionally stirred up so they can be more manipulated.

Has pride ever made you tell a lie? We are all guilty. Pride has made a lot of people lie for nothing more than a tool to create favorable image for themselves. This form of lying is one that comes with so much exaggeration. They create fascinating, yet very false stories to improve their image.

It all balls down to the fact that we deceive other people because we believe it serves our purpose in a way.

It’s that simple!

Lying slowly becomes an addiction. Wait! Don’t chew me yet. Listen first. When you lie, and get away with it, it often drives you to continue your deception. Sadly in this process we ruin relationships, hurt people, and lose our peace. Truth becomes a feared enemy of the liar. It’s a circle that never has a happy ending. Sick right?

Lying is extremely stressful.

Liars never have peace. You will always be looking over your shoulder wondering who might be finding you out, always keeping tracks of lies you have previously told to which person and what the next lie you need to tell. Being totally honest doesn’t require all this worries.

I can’t count how many relationships I have lost because of my inability to speak the truth. Lying is the quickest way to ruin a relationship. Once trust is broken, people will never want to trust you again. You will be surprised to find out that people are actually much more perceptive and aware of who is telling the truth and who isn’t.

The amazing thing about honesty is that it shows itself as a trait that is beautiful and deeply respected.

Liars are not respected!

For fact, you have to watch people who lie unnecessarily.

Always live in such a way that if someone spoke badly of you. No one would believe it

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