WHY DO PEOPLE LIE?

What does it mean to tell a lie?

When a person tells a lie, they speak falsely or utter untruth knowingly, with intent to deceive.

Everyone at a point in their lives have lied. Sadly few number of people lie almost all the time. Psychologists describes them as compulsive or psychopathic liars. A psychopath is not necessary someone who is violent. A psychopathic person can be someone who is charming and live a seemingly normal life. You will never suspect that something is wrong unless you are close to them.  They lie even when it is not necessary. Everything they do is built upon deception.

Sometimes when people lie, they are doing so because of something about them. Other times, there’s something about you that tempts people to lie to you. Everyone lies at some point, only a few know how destructive it can be. You get questions running through your mind like, why did I just lie? Does he/she knows I’m lying? How do I keep up this story?

People lie for different reasons, one of which is fear. Fear has the power to manipulate minds causing people to lie because of what might happen if they told the truth. They could be consequences of their actions therefore, lying was the only option left.

Tad Williams said, “we tell lies when we are afraid…fear of what we don’t know, fear of what other will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. Each time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger”

Manipulation is another reason why people lie. Someone might decide to lie in other to have something they desire like, money, status, sex, power, love etc. to me, the word love is mostly used in a lie more than any other word. Reading from an article, Lori said, “I’m young, but I realize quickly lustful people know how to get what they want, even if it means lying to you about how they feel”. The times a boy/girl will say “I love you” just to get the other person emotionally stirred up so they can be more manipulated.

Has pride ever made you tell a lie? We are all guilty. Pride has made a lot of people lie for nothing more than a tool to create favorable image for themselves. This form of lying is one that comes with so much exaggeration. They create fascinating, yet very false stories to improve their image.

It all balls down to the fact that we deceive other people because we believe it serves our purpose in a way.

It’s that simple!

Lying slowly becomes an addiction. Wait! Don’t chew me yet. Listen first. When you lie, and get away with it, it often drives you to continue your deception. Sadly in this process we ruin relationships, hurt people, and lose our peace. Truth becomes a feared enemy of the liar. It’s a circle that never has a happy ending. Sick right?

Lying is extremely stressful.

Liars never have peace. You will always be looking over your shoulder wondering who might be finding you out, always keeping tracks of lies you have previously told to which person and what the next lie you need to tell. Being totally honest doesn’t require all this worries.

I can’t count how many relationships I have lost because of my inability to speak the truth. Lying is the quickest way to ruin a relationship. Once trust is broken, people will never want to trust you again. You will be surprised to find out that people are actually much more perceptive and aware of who is telling the truth and who isn’t.

The amazing thing about honesty is that it shows itself as a trait that is beautiful and deeply respected.

Liars are not respected!

For fact, you have to watch people who lie unnecessarily.

Always live in such a way that if someone spoke badly of you. No one would believe it

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REVIEW ON WHY MEN MARRY BITCHES BY SHERRY ARGOV

I came across the book on a friend’s book shelf and on reading the title “why men marry bitches” I laughed a little wondering to myself, which man wants to be with a bitch?

Upon reading it, I discovered that the word “bitch” has an entirely different meaning in the book than what we know in reality. Sherry Argov associated the word bitch with a negative connotation. A bitch in this book is an “endearing word for a woman who is a typical “nice girl” and redefines the word “bitch”.

In this self-improved book, women are given the opportunity to figure out all of the mistakes they have been making with men. Sherry presents a woman’s guide to winning her man’s heart. A strategic way of approaching situations in your love life. A bitch in sherry’s term is a woman who knows who she is and what she wants. She’s not afraid to have standards for the way men treats her. She’s no push over to any man. When you think of any rap video you have seen isn’t this choice of word ironic?

In the book why men marry bitches one of the principles introduced is that you should be honest in answering questions men ask you.

The example Sherry gave is that when a woman says “I like whatever you like. I’m that easy” she becomes lame. It’s like he asked you what you like and you say whatever you like. Any woman who is easy is not interesting for a man to pursue.

What I understand in this scenario is that, we should not try to be someone who is easy to date and easy to get along with and easy going just for the sake of a guy liking you. Be yourself. “I could totally go for a pizza right now. Thank you for asking. What a nice gesture.”

As I continue to read the book, it dawn on me why so many “nice girls” are single. A good example of us college females is the scenario when a guy flakes on you, and how do you react? One time mistake can occur but patterns are a problem. In my life, I began to think I attract flakey guys. I saw the pattern with multiple guys as they came and went, as I continued to hope for someone responsible. Sherry presented a solution which is simple and straight forward. What do you do? You make other plans as if you are not at his beck and call (because of course you’re not) you say, my time is valuable. It would be nice if you gave me advance notice of a change. I’m going out with the girls tonight.”

The main theme in the book is how you handle situations, it says a lot about you. The ultimate goal is to project your standards to the guys you date. Chances are, if you’re awesome, classy and show you have self-respect, he will stick around a whole lot longer. What you can see in college is that a lot of girls give up their bodies to guys as if it’s no big deal. The guy may oblige, but remember how seriously he is taking the “easy” girl. Wouldn’t you rather be his goddess than his momentary play thing? The eye-opener is that perfect does not exist. Men don’t want perfect.  Men want interesting and the more you try to be perfect, the more eager you are to please. The more independent you are, the hotter you become by the second. This balls down to one of my life mantras, which is always love yourself. I say this in a playful manner but I really mean it. A healthy mind promotes success in life.

If you are a good girl who is sweet as honey and still single, may I introduce you to a whole new approach, through this book. You may see why you’re still single.

How i got over my EX boyfriend.

Few years ago, I was in love with a man I thought i could get to marry. We were in the midst of a rare moment of intimacy when I smiled at him, fully captivated by his charm.

From the moment we started connecting, the butterflies in me just couldn’t see us any way but together. Something about him was brilliantly different. He gave me a snuggling hug and told me I was lovely the first time we met, after dating for months online. His charm was palpable, and it grabbed me with the same kind of force I remembered coming under the spell of when we first met online, he wasn’t my first love, but i was crazy about this one and i didn’t want to let this one go. He had a big heart and a strong, handsome presence. I hadn’t been excited about anyone in years. In fact, I was a burned out dater who had lost hope of love.

I was so sure we were meant to be that I turned a blind eye to his bad habit of casually flirting with other ladies, or saying he would do things that never materialized. When we did actually spend time together it was more fun than I had with any other male friends. The fun of having him as mine made me forget the rollercoaster of disappointment I had chosen to board, until I was sitting in the front seat again with my heart aching. Even so, he continued to give me just enough to keep me chasing the fantasy that was us.

When we broke up, it was like a surprise dream i never expected to happen. At least not that soon. I felt broken that he could choose another girl over me knowing how much i love him in our few years together. i played deaf to all that was happening while i was dying inside. It felt so painful. I had this feeling that something really precious was taken away from me. I couldn’t move on, i started misbehaving and trying to fit into the world to draw back his attention. I slowly started to lose focus. It became all about him. It’s been 3yrs plus nd i have been stucked dreaming and wishing i could be his again.

Yes! I tried dating but it never worked out because i still took the love i had for my ex into the relationship. I tried all i could to forget him. My friends advice i take my mind off him but how do i when everyday i daydream about him. And i just hope it fades away. I won’t lie i knew he was not faithful from the start, what i felt for him was beyond sex so i manage to over look that and some little faults.

My pain now is, after 3 years I’m really just finding out the truth. You played me in more stupid way than i thought! What’s funny is that i feel content with and now you worth nothing to me anymore. So this is what it means to say “Time heals all wounds” well I’m done healing. If you just had your heart broken… Dont worry, all it takes is “TIME”

I’m open to new adventures and opportunities. Every girl deserve to be treated with love and respect.

There’s no magic in getting over your ex. It all has to do with you and your determination to let go and move on. I know it would hurt alot but give it time. You’ll be amazed at the silly things you whole heartedly cried for.

Model in photo : Andrea Obiazi

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Written by. : Andrea Obiazi

My trip from Accra to Lagos by road using GUO public transport 


I feel very happy narrating my experience on my journey from Accra Ghana to Lagos Nigeria by road. It was my first time and i was having a doubtful feeling that the trip would be very boring since its a 9hr 25mins journey. I chose GUO public transport because of how reliable and how fast they are compared to other transports and also how reliable they are. I booked for a ticket which was 190GHS per person.The date was set for the 22nd of January 2017. I and maro sota were already at the station where we were asked to wait at Tema roundabout for the bus to pick us up. We waited for about an hour because the bus was coming from the main station in Accra. We boarded the bus and by 6:05am we took off. We were offered food white rice and stew with chicken and a plastic bottle water. The AC on the bus took me off and i found myself sleeping really comfortable🤗. By 8:51am we were already at Aflao-Togo border. Our passports were taken from us and were given to the immigration officers to stamp on them. We were not really delayed. We waited for about 10mins after which, we were released to go. I nd maro managed to take a picture at the border because we were told that taking pictures at the border was not allowed and that our phones will taken away from us if we are caught. Lol. While waiting, traders came in to advertise their products. Some passengers bought while some like me felt it was too expensive and i will get it cheaper at the next border. Lol. We took off from Aflao border into Togo. With the little view i saw, Togo is really a nice place. Nice beaches and all that. Then with the passenger in the bus, we stared gisting among ourselves. Talking about hair and makeup hahaha I’m very sure maro sota was lost in that area. The driver played Nigerian movie to keep us entertained while we rode to the next border. Before long, we got to Togo-benin border. We were asked to come down from the bus for yellow card check of which if you don’t have you either pay 5ghc or 500 naira for it. After the check, we were told to walk a little distance from togo border into benin republic ( first time i walked from one country to another 😜) there i got a very nice dashiki material for 20ghc while at Aflao border the lady told me 45ghc for 6 yards. I got 6 yards of same material at togo border for 20ghc (how lovely🙂). We entered the bus, other passengers that were hungry went to buy food. This was about 11:25am. The delay at Togo/Benin border was about 10-15mins because of the passengers that went to get food. We kicked off nd continued our journey. By 1:27pm we were already at seme- Nigeria border. There, we were delayed for about 20-25mins in this border (una know na, anything that has Nigeria in it is always different. Lolz😂), traders were not much so the interest to buy things wasn’t there. After the check, we continued our journey. It wasn’t long before we finally entered lagos by 2:20pm. It took us almost an hour to get to the bus station with the traffic. I really had a wonderful experience traveling by road nd it’s something I would love to do again. You see all those airport wahala. I didn’t experience any. It was the conductor in the bus that was taking our passports from us to do our run around for us. All we did was sit, enjoy the AC nd watch the movie. It was really a nice experience. I’m glad i took the road trip instead.🤗

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5 Ways To Prevent Pregnancy Without Using Condom


To prevent preg nan cy naturally without a co ndom, one thing you can do is to get a copper T. Women who want to prolong motherhood and enjoy their s ex lives can turn to this method. However, there are possible chances that you will not be able to conceive. The other possible way to prevent preg nan cy without a co ndom is to for the woman to consume the pill. Here again, the side effects are in number and one should consume the pill often.
More than this, there are other possible ways to prevent preg nan cy naturally without a co ndom.
Take a look at these simple tips to avoid preg nan cy:
***The Safe Week***

The pull and pray method or withdrawal method is also followed by a lot of couples. However, it is not completely safe. But, according to experts, this pull and pray method is about 83 percent effective, just equivalent to a co ndom which is said to be 84 percent safe to prevent preg nan cy.

You can prevent an unwanted pregnancy with:

Total Abstinence

Use of contraceptives

If you are sexually active and do not want to get pregnant, always use contraception.
Methods of Contraception:

No method of contraception gives 100% protection.

The male latex condom is the only contraceptive method considered highly effective in reducing the risk of sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s). Birth control pills, Implant and IUDs do not protect against STD infection.
For the Woman
DEPO-PROVERA is a hormonal contraceptive injected into a muscle on the arm or buttock every three months. The injection must be repeated every 3 months. The menstruation can become irregular and sometimes even absent.
FEMALE STERILIZATION is done surgically. The tubes are ligated, preventing the egg-cells from encountering the sperm cells and preventing any future pregnancies. It is a permanent form of contraception.

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Graphic: Aborted baby found in floodwaters following heavy rain in Accra, Ghana. ★

 body of an aborted baby was found in the floods at Mallam Junction, Accra, Ghana. Parts of the city was submerged following heavy downpour in the early hours of today. According to media reports, areas including Kwame Nkrumah Circle, Dzorwulu, Mallam Junction and Kaneshie were inundated with water destroying household properties. Media houses have advised the public to stay indoors and avoid going to flood prone areas.

The 2016 Ghana Flood


The 2016 Accra floods resulted from heavy continuous rainfall in Accra, the largest city in Ghana. The rain started on 9th June 2016 and fell for six hours non-stop causing the flood in some places like circle, kaneshie and kasoa. The floods have resulted in heavy traffic on the roads in the city and also a halt in commercial activities as markets were flooded and workers trapped. Same thing happened in the country last year and the flood killed a whopping number of 152 people including the ATI student Adaku Abel who’s body was later found in 37 hospital in accra burnt without recognition after the fuel station explosion.
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